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From a friend:

Aloha Jeremy

I wanted to respond to “training women”…

You are a very good writer

It is true that we can define words as training women in any way we want. The trigger word let’s the person think of their meaning and open their mind…However the preconceived understanding can also limit their ability to truly hear your message.

I often say we train our mate or friends how to treat us by what we allow and what we expect….

I believe we can also help or hinder our mate and friends and ourselves by our words and actions to grow into our full potential of spiritual emotional, mental and physical being…..

As you say….

woman’s whole self healing process does not need the help and support of a “training” guide. If she is so fortunate to manifest her reciprocal in her life that can hold this kind of spiritual space for her to grow in, it is still her choice to take the opportunity or not, but it might make a big difference. I believe this process of emotional and spiritual growth can and should be done in ones life either way but sometimes it is easier with someone that loves you unconditionally by your side on this hard path.

I think this is true for a man or a woman so where is the article on training men…



Blessings,
D

My Reply:

Thank you so much for reading and responding not only from your heart but from a place of true wisdom and compassion. Also, thanks for the compliments about my writing. I love to write, but to be honest most of my stuff is edited because my spelling and grammar is so bad. I can’t always take all the credit.

The topic of “training men” doesn’t seem to be as emotionally charged as the phrase “training women.” It seems to be less threatening, less egoic, less derogatory and less control based, doesn’t it? It feels like it’s almost socially acceptable to “train” a man.

I think in most cases it’s an honor to be trained, like in sports or in such things as yoga training, meditation training, spiritual training or even job training. In these kinds of situations it is like a privilege to be trained. But when you talk about training within intimate relationships all of a sudden training can be seen as a bad word.

I think that the severity of the response to “training woman” can be related to the way that women have been mistreated for thousands of years. It seems the last thing women want is to be “trained” by a man, right when they feel they are getting their personal power back.

But with that said, I agree with you and I have heard it before that “people treat you the way you train them to”. So if that is true then we are already training everybody anyways, intimately or not.

Note: I would also like to say that I am kind of being a biter because my online friend Stephane Hemon at ideaGasms.net is where I got the whole idea of training from. At this point I don’t know where he is with this concept but he did create the “Girlfriend Training Program” awhile back and now I believe he is no longer offering it anymore, if I am correct.

And to your request for an article on “training men” here it is.

Training Men

Things a woman should know in order to train
a high quality man

If you’re a women and you want to know about “training men” then read the rest of this post, and don’t forget to re-tweet this post please.

A woman who is a qualified “man trainer” must first know how to love herself. She must have patience, remember to breathe, and always work on coming from a place of compassion. She can do this by being aware of and connected to her true self as Love. One important way to do this is to stay connected to mother earth and a supportive tribe of women in sisterhood. Through this great loving support she can further hold her man as another reflection of herself and love his imperfections, seeing the perfection in them. It is important for a woman who is training a man to remember to dance, have fun, laugh and play. This kind of man is trained with positive life experiences.

Challenging men is usually not an effective way of training them. A woman can train a man she is in a relationship with by taking her own personal growth steps which forces him to grow with her. A woman can train a man by trusting him and opening to him more, allowing him to do the same. Another component of training is also in the quality lifestyle example you live with and around him, showing him by example so he knows to keep up. However, it is important to know that men generally go through their growth process differently than women. Men tend to sort out and reflect on their growth process more internally, such as through contemplation and meditation. Women tend to talk about and communicate their feelings in order to process them. When training a man, a woman should feel free to lightly check in with him but remember to approach the subject of his internal growth and processing with sensitivity in a non-confrontational way. Another words Respect his process.

A note on the process of unfolding a deep connection of intimacy- I think it is true that when a couple is having sex, the more they work through their relationship and specifically the more she opens and surrenders to the source of love energy, the more a man can, through this deep connection of divine energy through a woman, learn to know God more. For this he will love the woman he is with even more and gain a deeper love for himself as a connected part of that divine energy.

Qualities, behaviors and characteristics
of a man worth training

Not every man is ready to work on himself enough to be “trained” by a woman, so here are some qualities, behaviors and characteristics of a man worth training. Trainable men come from an understanding of unconditional love, compassion and integrity. They are spiritually inclined, come from the heart and are deep and wise. Trainable men have a good sense of humor, are in touch with their feminine side and have a sense of having a mission in life. This type of man ideally should have a natural inclination towards healing, love to learn and grow and understand that the true meaning of life is to be happy.

A woman who wants to be in a relationship of mutual growth and happiness should know that words like “training” are simply tools to communicate the concept of practicing unconditional love, honesty, respect, integrity and pure compassion to hold space for another person to unfold into the highest version of themselves.

For The Trainable Man

If you’re a man and you want a qualified woman to train you, let me tell you from my experience what you’d be looking for. And don’t forget to re-tweet this post please.

A woman who is a qualified man trainer is a spiritual warrior. She is strong, her soul is deep, she loves herself and is unconditionally compassionate. A qualified man trainer is a woman who truly loves the man she is with and has his best interest in mind. Trust her intuition and allow her to use it to encourage both of you in your mutual training process that comes from sharing love, trusting each other and mutual empowerment. This type of woman will serve as a great mirror for a man but he must do a lot of personal work so he can attract a highly qualified woman and build a trusting relationship.

Working on yourself

To me working on yourself means constantly checking in with the deep questions of life and trying to understand the point of your existence. It is wanting to be a deep man, a deep thinker, a man of presence so deep that it is easy to drop into the witness and just be. It is coming from a place of love from the heart and understanding the concept of the interconnectedness of everything. It is important for a man that is wanting to be trained to work on healing emotional wounds. In my situation I feel like I was lucky to have deep painful heart wounds early on that forced me to make the decision to never be the victim of low vibrational feelings and emotions of insecurity, jealousy and fear again. I think emotional pain can be a good thing when it is experienced and used as a learning and growing tool. We all make mistakes but a man of integrity will admit his mistake, correct it the best way that he can and then learn to not make the same mistake again. A trainable man is committed to self honesty and truth. He will use the energy of pain to inspire a new empowering meaning or focus of self serving awareness. A trainable man understands the art of positive manifestation and seeing the beauty in anything and everything within all life.

The most trainable men are in touch with energy and their intuitions. Women and men who are meant to help each other grow and “train” each other mutually attract each other into their lives, whether they are conscious of it or not. That is, when the student is ready the teacher will appear but in this case it would be “trainer” because you have either just manifested a qualified girlfriend “boyfriend trainer” or a qualified wife “husband trainer”.

He must be aware

In order to allow the growth process of being “trained” to occur, a man must be humble and have humility and must not take things personally. He must be aware that when confrontations occur with the woman in his life it is a mirror reflection of his own actions. He must know that at times she won’t believe or trust him, but by trusting in the universe and trusting her she will relax and open back to trust as well. He must trust his mate that he attracted to himself and trust his own self judgment. He must know that there may be times she will be mad because it will seem she is doing all the work on herself in the relationship and he is “Mr. Perfect” and never has to work on his stuff, but really this may be because men are more solitary in their personal growth process and don’t feel like they need to communicate to someone about it as much. It is not his job to make her happy, but his joy to do so.

A trainable man must know, eat, sleep and shit unconditional love. He must love himself and all others as himself. It is deeply important for both partners to have an understanding of polarized attraction and not give up when times get hard, unless it is obvious that they are moving on if they decide to move in different directions in life.

Remember that a man does not need women to train him but if she is truly qualified it is a wonderful experience of learning, growth and love.

Love the process

The idea is to have fun, play with it and don’t be so serious with it all.

Remember we are both going after the same thing; the embodiment of compassion.

Blessings

PS. Thanks for reading and thanks for your questions and comments

PSS. I love my wife, she is so cute!

this video is in honor of her Grandma Lenora who would be 77 today.

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