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{Question from a Woman}
Hi, Jeremy=]
So, I just wanted to comment on what you had said about women that want their men to step up.
I’ve been trying to explain to my boyfriend how that’s what I am wanting right now.
But I feel like his ego is blocking our communication.
He hears me say this and he gets heated because he’s taking it as I am calling him a bitch and putting him down as a man.
– Thus not receiving the message I was sending to him.
Another thing I have brought up is how I am really wanting to focus on keeping a clean space:
Meditating every morning, running energy, giving healings and all that good stuff =]
I brought up how when we make love, we share each other’s space.
(That’s a no brainer)
When we make love, he is releasing energy into my space when he should be clearing it.
….. You get what I’m saying?
It’s frustrating because I love him very much and I would love to be his partner forever.
I’m just not sure if we are meant to take this journey together.
I want to be true to myself and to him.
If you could do a reading on our relationship it would be much appreciated.
Thanks….. Jennifer
{My Answer}
~For Enlightenment Purposes Only~
Blessings Jennifer, I hope this helps.
First I just want to say that it is not an easy path either way so learn to love the path that you’re on as a women awakening your empowerment of divine femininity from within.
Remember your partner is your biggest self reflection most of the time. One of the biggest tools to grow with, so what do you have to learn?
I would not want to tell you who to be with and who not to be with or what your relationships should look like, but instead I want to just share with you my experience and awareness of these things and what I witness.
For instance, at the Kundalini Dance Awakening Retreat I went to, one of the things I got to witness in the women that where going through this issues was a heart longing of desiring the man or men in their lives to step it up and handle their shit and hold their space with compassion and integrity.
It seemed that the key thing to learn for these women is to work on PATIENCE with their man!
Working on compassion helps with your level of patience by the way.
A possible karmic lesson you are learning from being with this person is to work on patience. You can, if you chose to, become a master of patience with opportunities such as these. It’s all in our perceptions right? ☺
I want everyone to know that it always comes down to self love, for everyone, always.
One could always be working on their personal relationship with self-love not waiting for anyone, and that serves everyone.
Some relationships are meant to be and some are not. All relationships we can learn from.
If you truly love him and are committed to growing with him in life, then continue to work on yourself and do what you need to do in life to be happy.
Take your steps, clear your space, do your meditation practice, run your energy and give healings, and dance and play, laugh, have fun, sleep in, sing, and make love. Fill your spirit and soul with love.
I seem to be a rare commodity being a man in a relationship passionate about relationships as a tool for growth. I am always ready to work on and grow my relationships sometimes even more so then my partners.
So I may not be able to speak from his point of view so much, but I do know yours more so. I will say that this is the best time to work on compassion and PATIENCE with love. To notice your own matching pictures and or polarized opposite matching pictures. All partners have this.
I am learning about my masculinity as a man and there is a lot of talk about how the masculine needs to take the lead and the feminine follows. I feel very fortunate that I know enough of my own self that I am able to guide my partner through emotional issues or at least support her and hold space for her to grow.
This means I keep my personal space clean, I hold my space with integrity and unconditional love for all things. This made it easier to take the lead in that area
of our life. I have a passion for self growth through relationships. It’s a perfect play ground to explore and grow.
But it would trouble me when I would get these calls mostly from women wanting to work on their relationships with their man but it was almost never that the man would call me up. So it seems most men are having a harder time with letting go of the identifications of the ego then women are and working on their selves and taking their own steps.
Perhaps this is because so many men have a lot of deep intense shame and guilt around their past and present relationships with women karmically and they are not ready to look at it.
Women may have the same or different intense shame and guilt but these are emotional based and feminine women seem to be made up of emotions so it is maybe more familiar territory to face your self in as the feminine.
Personally, when a woman is coming to me (a man) for relationship advice about her man, most of the time he is not able to lead her where she wants to go in life and in the relationship, at the moment. Or it is because he has not built up and gained her trust yet to do so, which is not an easy thing these days for a man to do on a lot of levels for a lot of different reasons.
So at the Kundalini Dance Awakening Retreat with 17 women and me being the only man I really had to drop in and surrender to the feminine and be present to divine feminine wisdom, and hold space as the divine masculine.
As men we all love to be seduced by the divine beauty of the feminine, most women do as well too. As divine masculine is madly in love with divine feminine both as her light Shakti form and the dark Kali side, and he has to first be present for his own self to even witness and hold space for her divine radiant beauty in all forms.
Photo of Shakti
Video about Kali
UNDERSTANDING KALI MAA: WHO IS KALI? WHAT DOES SHE STAND FOR?…
The other day I dropped in to be present for 
with Mellissa Seamen down in San Rafael, Ca. channeling “The Voice of Deep Feminine Wisdom”. In her channeling she said something about how the feminine is really the one that leads and the masculine follows, she is the gravitational pull, the attraction magnet of all divine manifestations.
So I have been looking at that and playing with that frame and I like it.
Regardless it is going to be hard for any women awakening in her divine femininity trailblazing this vibration into society and her relationships.
I think my point is to not wait for him to take your personal growth steps, if he is not ready and you are.
One of two thing will happen, either your vibration will raise to a state that he does not want to be around because he will see all his own self reflections that he is not ready to work on and he will leave, or your high vibration of love and light will attract him to raise his own vibration, you will inspire him to become passionate about life and himself.
It might not happen right away, it might take a long time, and I would imagine that the faster you grow the faster something will happen.
And don’t forget that if your unhappy then you better believe your man is unhappy (so to show him how unhappy you are about who he is does not help in any way) and there is nothing that makes your man more happy then you being blissed out. The more you follow your bliss in life the more he follows your beauty around like a little puppy dog.
At this point you would be able to lead him anywhere you wanted to. Most women are control freaks and men know it. Because most women try to control what their man does and does not do, who he is or is not, who he should or should not be, and if you are present you will notice most women try to control men in everything they do.
But they do it out of fear of him not being a man yet. In most cases she’s right, but all he is hearing is you think he is a little bitch and he is not a man. So why would he want to listen to what you have to say, as far as he is concerned you are not coming from the right place and he cuts off the communication, thus no understanding of each other’s reality and the love and affinity for each other drops.
So really yes it may be his ego you’re looking at but I would go as far to say that it is your ego that is blocking the communication.
I know you want the best for him and I would suggest that letting go of the control, and doing two things would make a world of difference for you. One is being present to personal growth in the moment. The second is to come from a new paradigm shift of love, free to love yourself and him in the moment, you’re not acting, you are being authentic and full of love.
Love him for what he is in the moment and have compassion for his path in life. This will keep the level of affinity up and the doors of communication will stay open and then you can talk about your reality to one another. It just seems that the divine feminine beauty leads the divine masculine up into a world of compassion, dose it not?
What else would the masculine live for if not his beloved? When she radiates in her core of love and bliss, there is nothing he won’t do for her, he will slay dragons for her, go to the moon and back. So remember when you’re in your bliss, that’s when you tell him what you want from him, then he will listen because he will be madly in love with your beauty and joy that shines from within.
Here is a secret; all women have to do on this planet to lead men where they want is through loving themselves. Just do what you need to do to be happy, and men will follow. Trust me.
You said; “I brought up how when we make love, we share each other’s space. (That’s a no brainer) When we make love, he is releasing energy into my space when he should be clearing it.”
First off I just want to say you are right, he should not be releasing into your space he should be clearing it. So with that said…
I would never say to use sex in any way to control him, nor do I think you would intentionally, but I would say by giving up your space and personal power to standards that don’t meet yours, this is a form of control in and of itself.
I know it sounds twisted but think about it like this, what are you afraid of happening if you just didn’t let him release whatever shit he is not facing in you? Things like fear of not being loved, fear of fighting, fear of rejection, fear of loss, fear of separation, and fear of being alone.
All these types of fears will control you and let someone dump their energetic shit onto you. So you might want to look and see if any of those ring true for you, or others alike, and then trust in the releasing and letting go, setting free and embodying love.
Love will hold a space of integrity.
Love will hold a space of purity.
Love will hold a space of sacred union.
If you are conscious that he is releasing and not clearing that is the first step, next is to do something about it.
Sex can be tricky sometimes so remember to communicate with him from a place of love and don’t make it about him; if he loves you and I am sure he does, he will understand or at least want to understand.
Communication is the key. Work on speaking your truth with integrity; women tend to expect men to know what they are thinking and want them to read their minds, and to know what they want and when they want it.
Most men don’t have a clue; they have no idea how women work or why they do the way they do. They don’t know when you want sex and when you don’t. They don’t understand all your emotions and they definitely have a hard time knowing which one of them you are experiencing in the moment out of all the endless possibilities.
So remember to give men a break, they are way behind the times with that one. Talk to them more, they want to hear “Kali”. She will eventually teach them to read minds one day. Again PATIENCE…
Also sex should be sacred, you could even make it into a ritual in the sense that you ground and protect yourself each other and your space before and after every act of making love, you light candles, and you set intentions together, burn sage, you eye gaze left eye to left eye and breathe together, look at playing with sex magick and or getting into Tantra.
You might want to look into sexual healing to do on/with/for him. Or find a tantric sexual healer to take him to or you both to. Find a way to channel the energy. Lead his breath, cycle your energyies using intentions with love when you’re having sex. It’s all just a process and our karmic journeys.
Enjoy…
Thanks for reading
Blessings
http://TheCompassionateSoul.com/OneOnOne-Coaching/
PS. To find out if you are meant to take this journey together
Here is a video of my beautiful wife Leah about a year or two ago before we got married. About 2 years into our relationship.
Pay attention to the part where we talk about writing down our Ideal Relationships, that tool will help identify where the relationship is and where it is going on both sides of the partnership.
Please leave your comments below, Thanks!
We heal and release negative patterns and old programs that no longer serve us by working on core soul issues. We ask the higher self to speak its truth from a place of unconditional love by going within to be a witness. By doing this we empower ourselves to reweave the grid of our karmic vibrations and energetic circles of life.
(Warning, read the rest of this post at your own risk! It may not all be pleasant so I inspire you to ground and protect yourself before going any further and take it in as enlightenment purposes only.)
I have never danced so hard in my life. Both my feet are sore, my legs hurt and my body aches all over, but I can’t tell you how good it feels to play full out and put my all into the retreat.
I am so deeply grateful and honored as I just had the pleasure to dance with and spend the last 8 Days at a Kundalini Dance Awakening Retreat with 17 divinely beautiful women, all consciously dancing their hearts out, alchemizing mother earth energy and father sun source energy, ecstatically activating their chakra systems to raise their own vibration and the collective vibration on this planet.
These women were all beautiful from day one, but by day eight they were all glowing with so much more unconditional love and light in their hearts. This presence created deep connections and affinity for each other, together building trust in them selves and with the divine feminine and the divine masculine, and healing sisterhood wounds and growing together.
There was massive appreciation from all the beautiful women to me for holding the masculine presence on the dance floor with compassion and unconditional love for all of them. I saw the divine in each and every one of these beauties and honored them as that. They all loved me for it, for my own authenticity and my courage, as I was the only male that was present and I was able to relax into my inner femininity and let go. As the divine masculine, I committed myself to personal growth, to work on myself in any situation right along side of them.
To all the men out there
I just want to let you know “Man to Man” that I witnessed a deep sad longing in the hearts of these women for the men in their lives to step it up, to have passion for personal self growth. They had a yearning for their men to come from a place of compassion and unconditional love and to have a mission in life that serves the greater good of all.
I have seen their pain and sad heart longing for the man to be there for them to catch up and lead by example in life, centered, grounded, balanced and present as the divine masculine in harmony with and with a huge affinity for the divine feminine.
I want to tell all men that if you’re coming from the right place you can grow anywhere, anytime, anyplace, always.
To show up as a man is the least you can do to hold space for her and support her to let go into trust. After all, femininity has been suppressed for thousands of years. I think it would be safe to say that all women have been raped and molested in some form if not physically then energetically. If she hasn’t been raped in this life she has in a past life and for those of you who don’t believe in past lives there is also cellular memory of these traumas engrained in our family DNA and soul lineage. Many men will see a woman walking on the street, on TV or in a magazine and energetically cord her straight in her second Chakra by in his mind striping her naked and jacking off to her; he fucks her whether she wants to or not, without her permission.
Even in relationships a woman will have sex with her man even when she doesn’t want to, she gives up her power in fear of on some level not being loved. She spreads her legs and unpassionately lets her man fuck her, and then she is hurt even more because he didn’t even notice she wasn’t into it at the moment or worse, he didn’t care. Mainly this man is not present. If he was he would realize it was no better than masturbating. In fact it is way worse because he hurts her directly that way.
Lets face it, women have been raped, pillaged and killed by men for thousands of years just for being women. All throughout history women have been misused, abused, mistreated, misguided, manipulated, misled and burned at the stake by men. All human beings have fears and insecurities to heal and transcend and both men and women have to heal their karmic wounds together.
Kundalini Dance for Healing
This type of self healing work directly focuses on oneness vibrations, revealing how everything is unconditionally connected to you, your relationships and all other areas of your life.
Come on, guys…think about all of those challenging issues that arise when in a relationship with a women. Each partner brings a mess of baggage with deep emotional wounds and behavioral patterns. Kundalini Dance is offering a safe place to not only face even the most repressed issue, but to actively transcend and move them out of your body. Facilitating the evolvement of everyone involved, but speaking directly to my brothers…I watched the transformation of these women in such a short period of time…their inner being becoming softer, gentler, yet more empowered creative divine beauties. What’s not to love?
And they want you to hold space for that. You help speed up their process and your own. A win-win and you don’t even have to do anything but be present; they do their own inner work.
So just to finish saying my piece to men as a man that was a witness to 17 spiritual high quality beautiful women: they would all love for more men to step it up and show up to be present and hold space for them. I know this as truth because I felt it heart to heart as the only man there witnessing their growth.
I did, I do and I can’t tell you how good it feels to be appreciated for showing up as the only man. All I can say is that you were missing out on witnessing their opening and alchemizing their energies and inner blossoming, all their letting go and setting free to shine with light from the inside out, the transformation of the divine beauty, their crying, their smiling and laughing and their love for witnessing.
Thank You All For That!
That alone would have been worth it for me, but I got my own growth out of it as well, I got my own awakening in my own dance.
My Kundalini Dance Transformational Journey
My wife and I have been introduced to Kundalini Dance for the last 2 years now and before that I never really was into dancing, nor did I feel like I knew how to dance. But I have always loved personal growth and beautiful women so it just seemed like the place to be.
This eight day transformational Awakening workshop in Canada that I just returned from was deeply healing.
We danced, we did shamanic journeys, and we were all in intimate space, deeply connecting on the dance floor together. We were each others reflections to face and look at our inner selves through.
Some mornings we walked out to the beautiful sea to breathe the fresh air and move our energy, to alchemically activate and energize our Chakras before we went into the temple to dance. The days that we didn’t go out to the sea we still did that daily practice of alchemizing and balancing our divine energy’s before we danced and also all through out our dance as well. We started at the base Chakra and worked our way up to crown Chakra, including the thymus Chakra, focusing on one chakra each of the eight days.
It was interesting to notice the human programs and boundaries we all have at different levels. One in particular that my inner witness got to witness was that of being in a room with a lot of beautiful women, and even out of your eyes peripheral it’s really hard not to also see a room full of beautiful boobies.
Now I just want to say I love boobies but I also want to respect peoples boundaries and relationship agreements. With that said, it was interesting to notice the energy in the room and the thoughts in my head, because I know everyone else is not blinded and could see the abundant beauty that I saw. Even between the women there are still those boundaries and relationship agreements we are all conscious of respecting. I noticed how it is even more restricted on a different level for me just because I am in a man’s body.
I truly don’t think any one of the women felt violated in any way by who I am or what I did or did not do, but on a different deeper level I sensed there was a feeling of violation just because I am a man.
In this life it is my practice to love women unconditionally, so I was just present for that, for them and for myself. But in a past life it was not always as it is now.
On Solar Plexus Day in the Kundalini Dance Awakening Retreat, we all took a beautiful walk into nature, on this trail to a sweet little grove where we all did our spiritual voodoo breathing techniques. At one point I had a past life vision of me as King Of The Land and I had an abundance of concubines. I felt like I was the King that invented lust or at least made it socially and globally the norm frame of consciences within the masses.
We walked back to the temple, back on the dance floor in the middle of four beautiful altars earth, air, fire, and water. Then we paired up and witnessed each other go through a deep shamanic drum journey. My journey lead me down a path of intense shame I never got to face, feel, forgive, so I got to go through the healing process back when I was King in that past life. I felt my betrayal of all my people both the women and the men.
In my past life journey, I saw my self as a King who stole all the women from my own men. I had their mothers, sisters, daughters and wives all as my sex slaves, all mine. I owned them as my possessions and I don’t think it even registered in that life that women even had souls or I just didn’t care. But I did love them all, just like you love your clothes or your cars. If they didn’t do what the King said I just gave the order and got rid of them, I had them killed. I would never hurt them myself, so I thought. But I rapped them of their souls; I tore painful karmic energetic wounds with no consideration of others or myself at the time.
In this life I have compassion and know unconditional love and so I felt that what I was not able to feel in the evolutionary process I was at then. I surrendered to and let go of egoic attachments of pride and I felt immense pain of intense shame for what I did on so many different levels, I felt the pain of all the men and the women I betrayed in so many different ways.
I am sure I didn’t go as deep as I could have with more time because before I knew it we were lead right out of our journey back through the light with love again.
I came back out still a King but a King of service to my people, the people of humanity. I am a King of compassion and understanding. I have a lot to give back and it is my right to. I am a King of forgiveness because I have forgiven myself. I am dedicated to make right where I have done wrong in the past. I am a King of Integrity and Unconditional Love. I am not here to have power over anyone, but to be of service and to empower, to up lift and bring out the divine in you. I also have a huge affinity for the feminine, for women and the quality of relationships we have with women and women have with themselves and each other.
Blessings and thank you so much for reading, if you liked this article it would really help me if you Retweet-ed it and shared it with your friends on facebook.
Check out this video:
“Kundalini Dance – Sacred Alchemical Evolutionary Keys”
***Leyolah Antara, the founder of Kundalini Dance, facilitated the Awakening Retreat we just went to.
I love her, she is a pure divine radiating love based energetic being. She shares her wisdom and empowerment freely with those who wish to find true freedom. Visit Leyolah at Kundalini-Dance.com
***My long time friend Yarah is a Kundalini Dance Facilitator and is raising her energy for the highest good of all. Located right here in the States based out of Santa Cruz Ca,
Yarah and her divine sisters will go where the people want to dance and raise their vibrations! Interested? We can offer a retreat in your area, let us know where you are at. Email Yarah @ escapetheordinary22@yahoo.com or visit RisingKundaliniDance.com
Thanks unconditionally and all the best,
PS. If you would like some one on one time with me, go here:
(Excerpts from my journal writing at the Kundalini Dance Awakening Retreat)
It doesn’t matter how!
Just be
I am present, madly in love with Kali
I see her beauty even when she does not
I step in my personal power so that I am present for myself and for her in her awakening
Divinely perfect always in the process!
I always work on myself; it’s all about personal growth for me
What can I learn? What kind of win-win can I get out of this?
I am worth whatever I say I am worth at any moment in life
I am all LOVE
I can’t help but see her divine beauty even when her own self cannot and when she cannot it makes me so sad, I long for her peace so much
My tears fall from my face to know she’s in pain, more then anything in life I want my beloved Kali to be free to express herself always fully without being judged by herself or others
I dream and live for the day that all feminine divine shines, empowered lights of love during all her states of being.
I tell you it’s possible to see your divine greatness and full potential without knowing what that is
I do see more beauty in your eyes then you can possibly imagine
My mission is to be present and to serve Kali (Feminine Yin) in her Global Awakening to her full state of ecstatic vibration of Unconditional Love and Integrity
I live today for lifetimes ahead
When her tough cookie has been softened and she is still empowered, when she is always creative, inspiring, vibrating orgasmically and naturally in all of her states of radiating love, bliss and joy through out all life
I live for that day and to witness it today in the process
It has seemed she has had no idea
So I am making it clear
I am here for you
I don’t have all the answers but I do love you fully as you are
I want the best for you
I see your pain and I can feel your distance and resistance of me
I trust you to trust me because you trust yourself
How may I serve you?
I am my own King here to serve you!
What is it that you need from me?
PS. I am still learning the definitions and meanings to the word “Kali”, but as of now my meaning and understanding of her is of motherly compassion for all things, but you would never want to fuck with her, for she knows all too well the intense depths of violence and rage that run through her karmic bones, but mature with emotional awareness and integrity of grounded intention and still free flowing out of control feminine beauty, desirable on every level, sexy as hell, intimately knows her own wrath but would rather seduce you because it is way more pleasurable, she is creative inspiring radiating beauty and light energy of smiles and love to share with the world.
More to come on my thoughts of “Kali”….
Blessings and Devotion to Her Divine Essence
PS. I am now offering Personal OneOnOne Life Coaching Sessions for Women!
(Notes from my journal during “The Awakening Retreat” Day 1)
I bring in mother Earth Energy
I bring in financial abundance
I release financial blocks and limitations
I am grounded
I am in love with nature
Nature is in love with me
Thank you for loving me
I love you back
Thank you for being so beautiful
I drop down into my center
I own my personal space
I am healed by Earth Energy and I am empowered through Source Energy
I am soft free flowing and solid all at the same time within me I am balanced
I am truly loved
I am blessed by God
I honor my unique gifts
I breathe and I am calm
All the beauty in the world is a gift for me
I am truly grateful
I want to surrender all my past guilt and shame
I release and let go of all judgments
I wish to know death intimately unafraid
I wish to drown to be reborn free to flow as eternal conscious source energy
I pray for forgiveness and know there is nothing to forgive
I pray to know God intimately
I pray for strong self discipline
I pray to know and experience my personal power unwavering in my space with serenity and clarity of purpose in alignment with the greater good of all
I pray to know my purpose for the divine feminine
Thanks for reading
Blessings,
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Hi friends,
I just wanted to write you real quick and let you know we will be
gone for a week and a half.
Leah she loves her new Big Purple Suitcase and we are both very
excited about going to Gabriola Island in BC Canada for an intensive
7 day Kundalini Dance Awakening Retreet.
Note: if you want to know more about Kundalini Dance go to my Tribe
Page http://thecompassionatesoul.com/my-tribe/
Each of the 7 days we will be doing focused dancing on each of the
7 Chakras, and deepening into our inner selves. It should be pretty
intense along with a lot of breath work,moving energy through the
body, consciously playing with Mother Earthenergy and Father Source
energy.
We work on the self healing of our emotional blocks and clearing
stuck energy. We do this so that we can continue to help people in
their own growth, since we will not share what we do not know to be
truth.
Leah and I love it, there is sick ass music and beats we get to
dance to. I am not much of a dancer or anything, but you might be
surprised how much you can get out of an experience like this. It
has been my experience with Kundalini Dance that there are a lot
of ups and downs and growth that can be achieved by this evolutionary
method of alchemical dance; you may throw up, get sick, cry, get mad,
extremely happy, sad, everything at once, release old stuck energies,
patterns and beliefs and get rid of what doesn’t serve you. When I
finish a dance session, I leave more empowered, clearer and aligned
with my highest good ready to create!
Although I do my best to not have any expectations for the event
and I am open to it unfolding in any divine way it wants, my intentions
is I am hoping to work on my own inner personal power, and any blocks
I have with being financially abundant in my life, I will be working
on my life mission and soul purpose, energetically focusing on
TheCompassionateSoul.com website and whats the best value I can
offer you through this site. I am always focusing on how to love
Leah more and bring our relationship to higher and higher states
of bliss, and I am sure that God/Universe will surprise me with what
ever I am not expecting as well. 
Wail I am gone make share you check out my new Integrity Challenge
page http://thecompassionatesoul.com/integrity-challenge-to-you/
and retweet it to your followers on Twitter and share it with your
Facebook friends.
I cant wait to share with all of you about our experience when we
get back!
Blessings with love,
Jeremy Creager
PS. check out the “Just Do You” REVOLUTION and listen to the recorded
call I was on last night right here
http://instantteleseminar.com/?eventid=9481530
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From a friend:
Aloha Jeremy
I wanted to respond to “training women”…
You are a very good writer
It is true that we can define words as training women in any way we want. The trigger word let’s the person think of their meaning and open their mind…However the preconceived understanding can also limit their ability to truly hear your message.
I often say we train our mate or friends how to treat us by what we allow and what we expect….
I believe we can also help or hinder our mate and friends and ourselves by our words and actions to grow into our full potential of spiritual emotional, mental and physical being…..
As you say….
woman’s whole self healing process does not need the help and support of a “training” guide. If she is so fortunate to manifest her reciprocal in her life that can hold this kind of spiritual space for her to grow in, it is still her choice to take the opportunity or not, but it might make a big difference. I believe this process of emotional and spiritual growth can and should be done in ones life either way but sometimes it is easier with someone that loves you unconditionally by your side on this hard path.
I think this is true for a man or a woman so where is the article on training men…
Blessings,
D
My Reply:
Thank you so much for reading and responding not only from your heart but from a place of true wisdom and compassion. Also, thanks for the compliments about my writing. I love to write, but to be honest most of my stuff is edited because my spelling and grammar is so bad. I can’t always take all the credit.
The topic of “training men” doesn’t seem to be as emotionally charged as the phrase “training women.” It seems to be less threatening, less egoic, less derogatory and less control based, doesn’t it? It feels like it’s almost socially acceptable to “train” a man.
I think in most cases it’s an honor to be trained, like in sports or in such things as yoga training, meditation training, spiritual training or even job training. In these kinds of situations it is like a privilege to be trained. But when you talk about training within intimate relationships all of a sudden training can be seen as a bad word.
I think that the severity of the response to “training woman” can be related to the way that women have been mistreated for thousands of years. It seems the last thing women want is to be “trained” by a man, right when they feel they are getting their personal power back.
But with that said, I agree with you and I have heard it before that “people treat you the way you train them to”. So if that is true then we are already training everybody anyways, intimately or not.
Note: I would also like to say that I am kind of being a biter because my online friend Stephane Hemon at ideaGasms.net is where I got the whole idea of training from. At this point I don’t know where he is with this concept but he did create the “Girlfriend Training Program” awhile back and now I believe he is no longer offering it anymore, if I am correct.
And to your request for an article on “training men” here it is.
Training Men
Things a woman should know in order to train
a high quality man
If you’re a women and you want to know about “training men” then read the rest of this post, and don’t forget to re-tweet this post please.
A woman who is a qualified “man trainer” must first know how to love herself. She must have patience, remember to breathe, and always work on coming from a place of compassion. She can do this by being aware of and connected to her true self as Love. One important way to do this is to stay connected to mother earth and a supportive tribe of women in sisterhood. Through this great loving support she can further hold her man as another reflection of herself and love his imperfections, seeing the perfection in them. It is important for a woman who is training a man to remember to dance, have fun, laugh and play. This kind of man is trained with positive life experiences.
Challenging men is usually not an effective way of training them. A woman can train a man she is in a relationship with by taking her own personal growth steps which forces him to grow with her. A woman can train a man by trusting him and opening to him more, allowing him to do the same. Another component of training is also in the quality lifestyle example you live with and around him, showing him by example so he knows to keep up. However, it is important to know that men generally go through their growth process differently than women. Men tend to sort out and reflect on their growth process more internally, such as through contemplation and meditation. Women tend to talk about and communicate their feelings in order to process them. When training a man, a woman should feel free to lightly check in with him but remember to approach the subject of his internal growth and processing with sensitivity in a non-confrontational way. Another words Respect his process.
A note on the process of unfolding a deep connection of intimacy- I think it is true that when a couple is having sex, the more they work through their relationship and specifically the more she opens and surrenders to the source of love energy, the more a man can, through this deep connection of divine energy through a woman, learn to know God more. For this he will love the woman he is with even more and gain a deeper love for himself as a connected part of that divine energy.
Qualities, behaviors and characteristics
of a man worth training
Not every man is ready to work on himself enough to be “trained” by a woman, so here are some qualities, behaviors and characteristics of a man worth training. Trainable men come from an understanding of unconditional love, compassion and integrity. They are spiritually inclined, come from the heart and are deep and wise. Trainable men have a good sense of humor, are in touch with their feminine side and have a sense of having a mission in life. This type of man ideally should have a natural inclination towards healing, love to learn and grow and understand that the true meaning of life is to be happy.
A woman who wants to be in a relationship of mutual growth and happiness should know that words like “training” are simply tools to communicate the concept of practicing unconditional love, honesty, respect, integrity and pure compassion to hold space for another person to unfold into the highest version of themselves.
For The Trainable Man
If you’re a man and you want a qualified woman to train you, let me tell you from my experience what you’d be looking for. And don’t forget to re-tweet this post please.
A woman who is a qualified man trainer is a spiritual warrior. She is strong, her soul is deep, she loves herself and is unconditionally compassionate. A qualified man trainer is a woman who truly loves the man she is with and has his best interest in mind. Trust her intuition and allow her to use it to encourage both of you in your mutual training process that comes from sharing love, trusting each other and mutual empowerment. This type of woman will serve as a great mirror for a man but he must do a lot of personal work so he can attract a highly qualified woman and build a trusting relationship.
Working on yourself
To me working on yourself means constantly checking in with the deep questions of life and trying to understand the point of your existence. It is wanting to be a deep man, a deep thinker, a man of presence so deep that it is easy to drop into the witness and just be. It is coming from a place of love from the heart and understanding the concept of the interconnectedness of everything. It is important for a man that is wanting to be trained to work on healing emotional wounds. In my situation I feel like I was lucky to have deep painful heart wounds early on that forced me to make the decision to never be the victim of low vibrational feelings and emotions of insecurity, jealousy and fear again. I think emotional pain can be a good thing when it is experienced and used as a learning and growing tool. We all make mistakes but a man of integrity will admit his mistake, correct it the best way that he can and then learn to not make the same mistake again. A trainable man is committed to self honesty and truth. He will use the energy of pain to inspire a new empowering meaning or focus of self serving awareness. A trainable man understands the art of positive manifestation and seeing the beauty in anything and everything within all life.
The most trainable men are in touch with energy and their intuitions. Women and men who are meant to help each other grow and “train” each other mutually attract each other into their lives, whether they are conscious of it or not. That is, when the student is ready the teacher will appear but in this case it would be “trainer” because you have either just manifested a qualified girlfriend “boyfriend trainer” or a qualified wife “husband trainer”.
He must be aware
In order to allow the growth process of being “trained” to occur, a man must be humble and have humility and must not take things personally. He must be aware that when confrontations occur with the woman in his life it is a mirror reflection of his own actions. He must know that at times she won’t believe or trust him, but by trusting in the universe and trusting her she will relax and open back to trust as well. He must trust his mate that he attracted to himself and trust his own self judgment. He must know that there may be times she will be mad because it will seem she is doing all the work on herself in the relationship and he is “Mr. Perfect” and never has to work on his stuff, but really this may be because men are more solitary in their personal growth process and don’t feel like they need to communicate to someone about it as much. It is not his job to make her happy, but his joy to do so.
A trainable man must know, eat, sleep and shit unconditional love. He must love himself and all others as himself. It is deeply important for both partners to have an understanding of polarized attraction and not give up when times get hard, unless it is obvious that they are moving on if they decide to move in different directions in life.
Remember that a man does not need women to train him but if she is truly qualified it is a wonderful experience of learning, growth and love.
Love the process
The idea is to have fun, play with it and don’t be so serious with it all.
Remember we are both going after the same thing; the embodiment of compassion.
Blessings
PS. Thanks for reading and thanks for your questions and comments
PSS. I love my wife, she is so cute!
this video is in honor of her Grandma Lenora who would be 77 today.
Family Dynamics
To me;
Family is weird; it is a fascinating program to look at, it seems one can not escape it.
Family is one of those things that can tie us all together, or rip us apart from ourselves and each other.
Family is a label and with labels comes constrictions and limitations. But family’s are also a wonderful and beautiful thing, because within this physical world we not only need some constrictions and limitations for our evolutionary process but we can not yet enter this wonderful physical world as a physical being without being part of and having a family.
Family comes and family goes, family teaches LIFE long lessons and so dose non-family as well.
There is spiritual family meaning (to my understanding) individuals with like minded consciousness that shear a spiritual vibrational match, a soul to soul connection and have made an agreement as spirits to learn, grow and evolve together or to become stagnated and dis-evolve together.
Family is weird, weird is a good thing, some of life’s hardest challenges to dill with come from family issues, if life is our mirror and it is, then family can sometimes be a big fat mirror right in our face reflecting our inner selves, showing us our own inner issues to work on and our own inner greatness’s to enjoy and be aware of. Family is one of the best teachers of compassion and love.
Family can be a whole lot of fun amazing experiences.
I believe family is perfect in all its imperfections just the way it is.
I love my family.
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I am desperate and I don’t care who knows about it. It’s not a bad place to be but in fact it’s a perfect new beginning to start with.
To give up, to let go, to release and be free in the moment.
I heard this quote “The Mother of all Success is 100% Desperation” off some online training video months ago. I didn’t fully know what it meant but it did resonate with me so I typed it out real big in Word Document and then printed it. I posted it so I see it right in front of me when I am sitting at my desk every day.
I want to be as real with you as I can and don’t pretend to have all the right answers in life.
What you are about to read below is me, a desperate man coming from my heart expressing how I feel in life at least right now in the moment I was righting it. I sent it to a select few close friends and family and a few people that could be experts in the areas of my desperations. I got some really good replies; they were my own personal questions so I got back some really good personal answers.
AND thank you so much to those that did respond to me, they really mean a lot to be for all your love and support.
Blessings to you all with love and light
I was thinking that if I posted my questions here, not just in privet messages.
It could be two fold. If you want to play!
First, to those that may really relate to what I am saying and want to add, comment or ask questions you can AND you have my permission to be as DESPERATE from your heart as you want and need.
Second, for artist, teachers and healers, for those that has valuable insight and wisdom to share about these times of desperation. We would love for you to put your heart into your response not just for me but for all those that come across this post and feel like they are in the same boat in life at this particular time. And you can add value to them and their lives right here on this page.
Desperation from the bottom of my heart
I am looking at and working on myself – What is my life all about?
How does a 29 year old man that sucks at grammar and spelling although enjoys creative writing become successful with an internet website/blog business?
How can a man that has looked at his purpose and mission in life still not know what to do in the world and not know what to offer?
How can a man that has spent most of his life wanting to help others not know how to help them or even his self sometimes?
How does a man that has so many passions in life not know what to focus his business on or about and how to make money at that?
How could a 29 year old man that has been doing personal and spiritual growth since he was 18 if not his whole life, not know what he has to offer to the world?
Why does an honest man with compassion and integrity still after 29 years on this planet struggle with financial problems in life?
Why does a man with so much information and awareness in his head have such a hard time getting it out into the world in a way others can and want to hear it, and want to pay for it as valuable life serving content?
How does a man know if he is clear on what he loves and is passionate about in life?
PS. How are you doing in your life? Hope all is well with you and your loved ones. Other then the above words my life is beautiful.
Blessings with love,
Jeremy
PS
I wanted to share what my mom rote back to me because I love her so much and I am grateful to have givin her the opportunity to share her love and wisdom with me. Thank you mom for loving me, I love you back!
Here it is;
How does ANYONE, of ANY age, achieve success in business, have clarity of their purpose, goals, passion, service, focus, priorities, and fine-tuned communication skills? Men who are much older than you often still ask those questions, sometimes their whole life through. The answers are in-part inside of you, ready and waiting for your surrender and acceptance of yourself, your limitations, and your flawless talents; and also in-part found in the world we live in (or universe). The internal and the external factors work in balance, and we either choose to work with those forces or against them, every day, every moment–and that balance changes continually.
For me, I get my comfort, clarity, and assurance for following my best path through my dependence on God. I don’t know any other way to find such answers but to seek guidance, try a path out with our best efforts, while letting go of the burdens that hold us back–which is done by relying on a higher power to handle them for us.
Keep learning, keep soul-searching, keep doing and trying your best, be teachable, adaptable, willing, and never give up. I have complete faith in you to follow your passions and find your niche successfully. Thank you for writing to me. I love your with all my heart.
~Momma
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